One of my readers submitted a question. Please read the question below carefully before reading my answer. Have something to add? Please do so in the comment section.
I was recently asked by a friend/mentor in my network to lunch. We have had lunch once a month or so over the past 6-8 months so this was nothing out of the ordinary. Our discussions typically had a focus on business with regards to anything from analytics to operations to development. So this conversation was not out of the ordinary until the end. I was asked if I would come meet her team at the company she works for and that she would like to offer me position X, at a salary noticeably greater than my current salary.
I am not unhappy with my current employer and salary and am in fact very happy with them. I would like to bring this up to my manager though. How does it make sense to approach this? Will my manager likely think I am only motivated by money and lose interest in keeping me?
Let’s be honest, you are going to tell your manager about this job offer because you want a counteroffer, some sort of monetary acknowledgment of your value to the company. You like your job, you just want more money, right? So to answer your last question, I am going to say “yes.” There is a very strong possibility that your manager will think that you are trying to extort a raise by threatening to leave.
For the sake of this post discussion, and not knowing anything else, I will assume that your company is doing well financially, not going through lay offs, and is able to give raises.
I can see two possibilities that can take place.
First, you might not get a counteroffer. That would be the case if I were your boss. I would wish you good luck, and you would be on your way to your new job before you could blink twice. Luckily for you, I am not your boss. This brings us to the second possibility.
Your manager might consider keeping you for whatever reason, and as a result of this consideration you will get what you want, i.e. a counteroffer.
No matter what happens, I can promise you that it is going to be a very uncomfortable conversation for both of you. You already are worried about coming across as greedy, and legitimately so.
If you decide to talk to your manager, go into this conversation with confidence because let’s admit it, you can negotiate from the position of strength. You do have a job offer.
So, assuming, you have enough leverage to rely on, this is what I recommend:
If I were your manager, and you walked in into my office with your story, I would ask you the following questions:
I want to be frank with you. My perception of you most likely would change after this conversation.
As your boss, I would always think that you are on a constant look out for bigger and better opportunities. Even if I ended up giving you what you want, I would always remember that you extorted it from me. I would not be able to trust you, and eventually I would find someone who is more reliable. In other words, I would find your replacement. But, as I said before, luckily for you, I am not your manager.
In the end, you should seriously consider the downsides of this conversation.
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